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Posted on Saturday, December 11, 2021 with 3 Notes

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Posted on Friday, September 23, 2022 with 879 Notes

lilyliveredlittlerichboy:

the diet cult is a solution to a nonexistent problem.
which is great, capitalism loves a solution without a problem. Or rather, selling you a solution to a problem they tell you you absolutely have.
so they make everyone believe that losing weight is super desirable for some reason.
it can only really be accomplished by disordered eating and/or exercise habits. (there have been so many studies showing that long term weight loss is not possible for most people, unless they develop disordered eating or exercise habits.)
the problem? people get hungry cus their bodies need food!
the solution? try this pill, that shake, such-and-such supplement. join this group with like minded ~~diet cultists~~ people who want to lose weight! you have to pay a membership fee and it’ll try to dictate every bite you put in your mouth and sell you special recipes and ingredients and build an entire economy based on your low self-esteem, cus society tells you anything above stick-thin is too fat.
it’s a cult aimed at controlling your entire life, where you shop, what you buy, what you eat. it’s super good at it?? to the point where like. the majority of women in western countries seem to be falling for it?? (can’t speak for other places but i imagine it’s big elsewhere too)
to the point where many fat people believe they don’t have worth unless they lose weight,
and many thin people believe that the worst thing that could happen to them is to gain weight,
when in reality, weight is morally neutral. being fat protects you from some diseases, actually. socio-economic status is a better predictor of health than weight. etc. etc.
fat ppl and fat liberation activists have been talking about this for so fucking long. i really don’t know what it will take to get people to listen.

Posted on Monday, September 19, 2022 with 133731 Notes

your-fave-has-autistic-swag:

loth-catgirl:
shortlesbian:
ALT

#cats #cat #twitter

Posted on Monday, September 19, 2022 with 930 Notes

LGBT+ & Neurodiverse Culture Things

rowandor:

LGBT Culture
In General: The entire genre of Fantasy tbh, Lord of the Rings, Poetry, Dungeons & Dragons, The essence of Sass itself, The Revolution, Vampires, Iced Coffee, Vine & TikTok, The concept of Humor, Sweaters, Cottagecore, Dark Academia, Goblincore, Cuddles, Cowboys,Pirates, Oversized Clothes, Hoodies, Embroidery, Art in general tbh, Either bad at Math Cooking or Driving, Panic! At the Disco, Giving No Fucks ever about anything anymore, Constantly tired, Really needs Therapy tbh, “In this economy?” Jokes, “Yas queen”, “Tea” Jokes, Science & Art
Gays / MLM: Rats, Marvel, Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, Rainbows, Poetry about how hot Men are, Yuri on Ice, Achilles & Patroclus, Too many Ships to count, Constant “Who’s the woman?” comments, Having to prove that your relationship isn’t entirely based on sex for some unfathomable reason, Rainbow colorschemes, Bears Otters and Twinks, Top and Bottom Jokes, Rolling up your sleeves because you heard people thought it was hot, Falling in love in like 2 seconds, Pretending that your date is “just a friend”
Lesbians / WLW: Thor, Captain Marvel, Hozier, Boromir, The Fantasy Genre, Steven Universe, Witches & Witchcraft, Sappho, Violets, Pink and Orange Color Schemes, Lavender, Lady Knights, Gentleman Jack, Flannels, Constant “Who’s the man?” comments, Falling in love in like 2 seconds, Cartoon Lesbians (Bubbline, Korrasami, Rupphire, etc), Moving in on the first date, Constantly facepalming at Lesbian Porn, Consyant gross comments from Men about your sexuality or relationship, Pretending that your date is “just a friend”
Bisexuals: Denim and/or Leather Jackets (bonus Bi points for Pins & Patches), Boots, Finger Guns / Peace Signs / Devil Horns / Thumbs Up, Piercings, Cuffed Jeans, Tucked-in Shirts, Indecisive, Can never sit properly and never will, Puns, “I’m Gay”, Werewolves, Short Messy Haircuts, Constantly Questioning your own Sexuality, Loving Soft Men and Tough Women, Flannels, Having High Standards for Men but practically None for Women, Blue Pink and Purple Color Schemes
Pansexuals: Constantly crushing on someone, Glitter, Pastels, Boots, Having High Standards for Men but practically None for Women, Dickheads insisting that you’re “Just Bisexual”, Deadpool, Panic! At the Disco, The classic “You’re attracted to cookware” jokes, Constantly having to explain what it means, Calling people “Pretty” regardless of Gender, Pink Yellow and Blue Color Schemes, Everybody Talks by the Neon Trees
A-spec: Voidpunk, Dragons, Cake, Hearing “That’s not possible sex is what makes us Human” constantly, Space, Cryptids, Purple and Black Color Schemes, Pokemon?, Not being Broken, Cuddles, Leaving during Uncessasary Sex Scenes in movies, Being so damn confused by Allosexual Cullture, Thinking that maybe you’ll grow out of it only to never grow out of it, “Who needs sex when you have ____? Jokes, Very uncomfortable questions about your libido from strangers, Where’s the representation??? I can’t find it!?!?, Black Rings, Cards, Plants, Platonic Affection, Only ever being represented by Non-Human creatures in media, Halloween 2020
Aro-spec: Voidpunk, Green Grey and Black Color Schemes, The color Green in general tbh, Arrows, Claiming every Archer Character as your own, Just for the Puns honestly, Aliens, Dragons, Robots, Reinterpreting Lyrics, Cards, Nature, Being so damn confused by Alloromantics, Hearing “omg that’s so sad” and “you just haven’t met the one yet” constantly, Not being broken nor devoid of all love, Being loyal af towards friends and loved ones, Platonic Affection, Plants, White Rings, Only ever being represented by Non-Human creatures in media,
Nonbinary: Voidpunk, The fact that I’m not an incomprehensible formless abomination is transphobic, Monsters, Eldritch Monsters, Excellent hair and fashion choices, Groaning everytime a “are you a Man or a Women” question comes up, Animal Crossing New Horizons, Frogs, Moss and Nature, Flower Crowns, Goblincore, Only ever being represented by Non-Human creatures in media, Button-Up Shirts, Oversized Hoodies and Clothes, “Genderfucking”, Making Tacky Clothes look amazing, Shopping in both the Men’s and Women’s section, Horrible sleep schedule, Screaming, Constantly explaining that Gender is a man-made construct and Sex is a spectrum because that’s scientifically backed but whatever cishets, Constantly hearing shit about how there are “only two genders” and having to control your unbridled rage
FTM / Transmen: Trading your clothes and preferably boobs with Trangirls, “Just let me have my Headcanons in peace, guys”, Being handsome as fuck, Oversized Baggy Clothes to hide your chest, Tearing up when someone genders you correctly, Making tacky button-ups look incredible, Beanies, Definitely related to stories of girls masquerading as boys (i.e. Mulan, etc.) a little too much as a kid, Taking awhile to get your hairstyle correct once you first start cutting it (if you do at all), Being nervous going into a bathroom, Using a Unisex bathroom whenever possible, Flannels and lots of Jackets, Layering Clothes like a lot, Having that one piece of clothing that you wear whenever humanly possible, Piercings, Hating JK Rowling with a fiery passion even if you like her books, Feeling awkward when you first start shopping in the men’s section
MTF / Transwomen: Trading your clothes and preferably dick with Transboys, “Just let me have my Headcanons in peace, guys”, Being beautiful as fuck, Tearing up when you first wear a skirt or a dress because it just feels so right, Feeling awkward when you first start shopping in the women’s section, Waiting for what feels like 84 years for your hair to finally grow out (if you grow it out at all), Tearing up when someone genders you correctly, Your supportive family or friends giving you tips on makeup and clothes styling, Getting uncomfortable whenever somebody laughs at a joke about a man dressing up like a woman, Being nervous going into a bathroom, Using a Unisex bathroom whenever possible, Piercings, Hating JK Rowling with a fiery passion even if you like her books
Neurodivergent Culture
Neurodivergent Culture: Voidpunk, Stuffed Animals, Stimming, Comfort Items, Hating “Cringe Culture” with a fiery passion, Not sitting in chairs properly, Infodumping like a motherfucker, Being worried you accidentally said something wrong so apologizing for no reason, Constantly saying “sorry” for no reason, Always having way too many tabs open on your computer, “It’s too hot for my coat that I never take off”, Forgetting what you were going to do seconds before doing it, Executive Dysfunction, Days where your Brain just goes into overdrive so you’re stimming and obsessing twice as much, Special Interests the more Hyper-Specific the better, Either being a Gifted Kid or a Problem Child or maybe even both at the same time, Teachers always hated you unfairly, Having people spouting bullshit cures and causes for your condition constantly, Your soul ascending from happiness of some good sensory input, Every cell in your body convulses and screaming from bad sensory input, Suffering whenever you forget to take your medication, Infantilization and being treated like a child solely for your Neurodiversity, Eternally cycling between like 10 different hyperfixations a month, Growing up too fast, Gifted Kid Burnout, Tearing up when somebody actually likes your infodumping for once, Always being worried about seeming “cringey”, Being labeled as “too sensitive”, Only ever feeling genuinely represented by Non-Human creatures in media
If you have anything to add, please share it! I’d love to hear more suggestions!

#lgbt culture #neurodivergent #neurodivergent culture #neurodiversity #lgbt #lgbtq

Posted on Sunday, September 18, 2022 with 3913 Notes

furiousgoldfish:

abuse victims attracting abusers is a myth, abusers target victims, and it’s 100% abusers fault no matter who they abuse. you are not responsible for “making sure you don’t act in a way that could make someone want to abuse you” or for “making sure you don’t attract abusive people”, it’s on them to not fucking target and take advantage of the first person who has trouble standing up to them and saying no, who is scared of confrontation, who was groomed into pleasing and putting others first, who is still trying to find themselves and put themselves together, who doesn’t know how to demand and ask other than to offer all of their affection and support while asking nothing in return and being happy with whatever they get. these people just need proper family! someone who would protect them and allow them to build boundaries and learn they never need to offer more than they get and that they’re safe and valued and wanted and accepted just the way they are, taking advantage of someone so fragile and scared and wounded and hurting them even more in order to gain power and satisfaction is cruel and vile and abusers should go to hell for it, and whoever thought that victims should take responsibility for “attracting abusers” can also go to hell, blame fucking abusers, shame abusers for taking advantage, let them know they need to pay for what they’ve done and change their ways if they wish to keep existing, leave victims in peace

#abusers #victim blaming #emotional abuse #ptsd #cptsd #reassurance #reminder #reminders #reassurances

Posted on Sunday, September 11, 2022 with 38 Notes

what should you do if you think someone is self harming? Not asking cause I know anyone who does it, but because I recall once almost getting caught and the thing I used to harm myself was taken away even if they didn't know I was hurting myself (it wasn't mine so I had to put it back on a bookcase every time I was done instead of hiding it). Yet when they took it away I just became stealthier and more secretive about it and learned how to hide it better, taking it didn't help me at all.

- Anonymous

one-abuse-survivor:
I also have a bunch of stories of my own of people trying to help me stop self-harming and doing the opposite of actually helping, so I’m very glad to answer this question. Please bear in mind my answer is going to be based only on my personal experience being on both sides of this situation, though. It’s okay to have a different experience or point of view than mine, and if anyone wants to share theirs, you’re more that welcome to.
Dos and don'ts of helping someone who’s self-harming:
If the person just self-harmed:
Don’t immediately take their self-harm tool away from them unless they ask you to. Chances are having it in their hand makes them feel control over the situation, and you could escalate it by trying to grab it from them. Work on calming them down first, then gently ask them to hand it to you.
Don’t raise your voice or do any suddent movements. Move slowly, talk calmly.
Don’t touch them without permission when you reassure them.
Don’t ask why they did it or tell them it was selfish or stupid to do it. They’re probably already judging themselves, and the last thing they need is for you to reinforce their negative self-talk. Remember self-harm isn’t something you choose to do—it’s more often than not a survival mechanism to cope with levels of pain greater than we can hold inside.
Do take a moment to breathe deeply before helping them, because you won’t be able to help deescalate the situation if you yourself are panicking.
Do reassure them it’s okay, that you’re right there for them and you’re not mad at them.
Do help them tend to their wounds if they’re okay with that. Help them clean, disinfect, patch up or soothe them. If you don’t have the right materials for that, even just offering a clean tissue to control the bleeding is better than nothing.
Do ask them if there’s anything they need right now, like going to a quiet place or drinking some water. Focus on their needs in the moment, not on bigger-picture things like seeking help.
Do model soothing behaviours for them if they need it. For example, breathe in and out deeply and slowly, encouraging them to follow your lead.
In the long run:
Don’t take away the person’s self-harm tool without their consent. It’s natural to want to do it: you care about this person and want to protect them from harm. But taking away the tool doesn’t address the root problem and won’t stop the self-harm from happening. On the contrary, it creates shame and distress, which might cause them to self-harm more and/or to not come to you the next time the self-harms happens.
Don’t shame them, make jokes about their self-harm (unless they’ve told you they’re okay with that) or throw it in their faces when you’re upset. Remember self-harm isn’t a personal flaw or a sign of weakness; it’s morally neutral and something anyone could do. Always keep that in mind and remind the person of it when they’re being hard on themself.
Don’t treat relapse as a failure, or like it negates all the hours/days/months/years they didn’t self-harm. Remind them their goal doesn’t need to be to never self-harm again; their goal can be to space out their self-harm episodes as much as possible. This can help get through many bad moments without self-harming, because they’ll feel more in control of the situation if they know the option will still be there later if they really need it. “I’ll self-harm in 5/10/15 minutes if I’m still feeling like this” can be much more helpful in getting through a bad moment without actually self-harming than “I really want to do it, but I can’t, because if I do I’ll be a failure and it’ll all have been for nothing”.
Don’t tell them they’re attention-seekers. This phrase has a very negative connotation and implies that they’re bad, stupid, weak, annoying or selfish for reaching out to you for help. A generally preferred term for it (from what I’ve seen) is “a cry for help”. People who self-harm when others will see or know about it are desperately trying to communicate they need help. There’s nothing wrong with needing help.
Do reassure the person you’ll love and support them if they self-harm again. Let them know they can come to you when they do it, and meet them with reassurance when they do (see the previous list).
Do discuss the possibility of them handing their self-harm tools to you when they’re ready for that. If you take the tools from them, it needs to be a decision you come to together. Be prepared for this to be too big a step initially, and even if you do come to this agreement, you need to be open to the possibility they might do it again through other means.
Do discuss safe self-harm with them, if they’re open to it. Safe self-harm includes, but isn’t limited to, using clean tools and keeping the wounds superficial (for example, by avoiding excessively sharp tools). It also includes finding safer methods to feel pain, like holding an ice cube or pouring a drop of spicy sauce on your tongue. (But don’t forget that these methods are also self-harm and should also be avoided when possible).
Do discuss ways they can demonstrate and express their distress without self-harming, if they’re open to it. Some examples of this are: rubbing their arms to redden them or pouring mud or red food colouring over their skin to mimick blood, painting on their skin, running, jumping, screaming, stomping their feet, etc.
Do help them address the root problem(s) when they’re ready for that: it can be mental illness, trauma, undiagnosed health issues, poverty, abuse, incarceration, addiction, and a very long etc. This is when you might want to help them find therapy, if it’s available to them and they’re open to the idea.
Lastly, remember that it is not your responsibility to stop another person from self-harming. Your own safety and well-being should always be your priority. Helping someone who’s self-harming should always be your decision, and not something you do out of guilt, obligation or fear.
If you’re in a situation where someone is threatening self-harm unless you do what they say, that is emotional blackmail, and you deserve to take any steps you can to protect yourself from it. If you fear anyone’s life, including yours, might be in danger, call your country’s emergency number. If your boundaries aren’t being respected, you deserve to cut out this person whether they follow through with their threat or not.

#self harm #self-harm

Posted on Wednesday, September 07, 2022 with 33710 Notes

borderlinereminders:

Not everything is a personal attack against you. Your friend may not be ignoring you on purpose but may be feeling drained. Someone isn’t always being short with you because they’re angry at you but may be trying to hold their own emotions together. Please don’t always assume malicious intent. Most of the time, people are just being people and trying to survive their own lives. It’s not necessarily about you.

#interpersonal communication #interpersonal relationships #communication #friendship #reassurance #reassurances

Posted on Wednesday, September 07, 2022 with 24354 Notes

newthinkerer:

zippyzstuff:
A tweet from let my people glo ✨(@/MichellCClark):
[“Never quit” sounds great, but sometimes, you gotta quit. be willing to say, “this isn’t what i thought it was”, or “this doesn’t appeal to me anymore.” remember that you can quit “the thing” without quitting on yourself. remember that persistence and fluidity can coexist.]

#its okay #reassurance #reminders

Posted on Sunday, August 28, 2022 with 2478 Notes

happyheidi:

horses ೃ࿔*
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#horses

Posted on Friday, August 26, 2022 with 7193 Notes

thequeenofbithynia:

butch love 💜
new lino print now available in my shop (link in header!)

#butch #lesbian #butch lesbian #art

Posted on Friday, August 26, 2022 with 3683 Notes

sanguinebutch:

here’s a post i’ve never seen before: shout out to intersex butches. shout out to butches who have felt uncomfortable in queer spaces due to intersexism. you are awesome, you are appreciated, you are so strong and beautiful and i love you.

#butch #butch lesbian #intersex #not intersex just using tags